January 15, 2002
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Fighting.
We’ve been snarling at each other since Tuesday night when he decided that I was being a lazy cow for asking him to watch mouse eat dinner while I got away from the situation for 10 mins.
And because after he threw things around and muttered horrible things about me under his breath and then stormed out of the house – when he was ready to be calm and rational, I didn’t want to listen to him apologise. AGAIN.
This morning, he pitched a beauty, shouting, ranting, and telling me I have something wrong with me mentally. Telling me I am a lousy wife cos I don’t’ do enough housework or give him enough sex or SOMETHING.
I am a lousy wife because I am on the computer too much.
I am a lousy wife because I don’t iron his shirts.
All his friends told him not to marry me, but he didn’t listen and now he should have.
I am a lousy wife because there’s something psychologically wrong with me that I am sad about not getting pregnant, and because financially our life sucks.
I am a lousy wife because I’d rather sleep in another room when I have to get up 2 or 3 times a night then sleep with him and have to climb over his snoring ass to get our child so I can go and sleep in another room anyway, since he can’t sleep with her in the bed. And he sleeps through her wails.
I am a lousy wife because we only have sex 8 times a month, around ovulation.
I am a lousy wife because even though I’ve told him that he can take off any time on the weekend to do what he wants, I make it impossible, because he has to let me know in advance.
I am a lousy wife because I don’t appreciate drop in guests, and I resent having to cook elaborate company meals on the weekends without help and a bit of notice.
I am a lousy wife because I don’t like his mother more than he likes her – and don’t encourage him to spend time with her. So she’s pissed at him.
I am a lousy wife because the house is messy and untidy and what do I do all day.
I am a lousy wife because I don’t support the fact he works 5 days a week.
I am a lousy wife because I don’t make his lunch in the morning.
I am a lousy wife because every time he yells I always manage to twist it around so he’s being unreasonable.
What the fuck am I doing this for?
Would my life be so much more unbearable alone?
Comments (14)
Bummer. I'm sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help. But, sounds like he needs to be a bit more reasonable.
I love you banner, by the way!
thanks Margi - I am rather proud of that banner. 4 years of art school and that's about the sum of my art lately.
I think he needs to get a grip. My parents make a lot of ridiculous claims about each other, but those don't sound ridiculous, and my parents eventually do get over them... so hopefully yours get cleared up
::pssst... men suck... countless friends of mine that are older and married have had countless problems...::
Life is too fucking short. I am the last person who can justify giving advice about staying in a lousy relationship, but if you can walk away and be happier... well then.
Mean time be strong in the knowledge that he is full of shit. Not poop, that's our kids' domain.
I am sorry that you had to endure that. I don't understand Men's moods at times... best to just ignore them when they get like that I think.
I'm sorry you had to endure all of that. It sounds to me like he's depressed. And you know the old saying, "Misery loves company"
Hope it gets better soon.
if you're seriously considering it, i think you'd be much happier if you left the bum! it doesn't sound like he gives anything to the relationship except sperm anyway, so toss him out on his spoiled ass!
guys can be such pricks! they go from Mama to wife and expect both to treat them like princes.... they can't empathize with anyone because they think they're the center of the universe.... the only difference between men and little boys is that a man's tantrum can be frightening, especially to children!
i wish you all the luck, regardless of your choices in the future!!
You are perfectly fine the way you are. you don't have to change to please the male species. we aren't here to satisfy their every need. we wont be there at every beck and holler. i'm sorry that things are so rough for you right now. let him know how you feel, if that helps. sometimes it messes things up even more. whatever you do...be happy and content with yourself. why does he need to make al ist of what makes you a bad wife?? doesn't that make him a bad husband?? if we kissed their asses...they'd still complain. nothing can fully please them, but we love them anyways...lets hope things work out! good luck! and take care of yourself through all of this!
You should ask yourself this - if you're so lousy then why the hell is he with you for? You deserve better than this, and the last sentence in this blog should be
"you're an intelligent wife because you sent his selfish and ungrateful arse packing"
I'm sorry about your fight. How long have you been married? It sounds like he's got some 'issues' that he needs to work out.
Reading this burned my ass. Why? Because I can SO relate to the shit and abuse we take when some man spews all that immaturity and insensitivity out at us when they can't take responsibility for their own feelings. I got tired of being the scapegoat, guess that's why I'm single.
Take care of you...
I love you Stressbabelet.
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